Sex, Soul and Islam

Sex, Soul and Islam

Osman Sidek and Enon Mansor


-- pages / Published: 2022


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SEX, SOUL AND ISLAM tells a story of an unlikely alliance between two opposite elements of the human experience – the carnal and the spiritual. The sexual instinct could potentially spoil the soul’s quest for paradise. Instead, they become companions when a believer embraces Islam’s revelations on the sex-soul connection.

This fascinating title situates sex in its worldview of life, revisits the spirit behind the letter of its sexual laws, and describes how paradises on earth can thrive – where lovers may dwell in tranquillity, love and mercy.

Along the way, it explains how marriage anchors this alliance, reframes a prevalently male-serving view of conjugal rights and reintroduces sensual pleasuring as the underlying theme behind the Islamic outlook on lovemaking.

The authors explain how classical Islamic perspective regarding sex might navigate pornography, oral sex, sex toys, fantasy roleplay and BDSM, among other – using insights from the social sciences, sexual therapy and the writers’ own counselling experience.

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OSMAN SIDEK and ENON MANSOR is a husband and wife writing team. They met in university and married after graduation. Soon after, they both began working as trainers in marriage preparation courses conducted by the Muslim Converts’ Association Singapore (MCAS), the Islamic Religious Council Singapore (MUIS) and Singapore’s then Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS). In 1998, they co-wrote Tranquil Hearts – A Guide to Marriage, which was co-published by MCAS and MUIS and is still being used as the textbook for the marriage preparation programme in MCAS. In 2011, they collaborated with an Islamic scholar and a social worker to design and conduct Suara Kekasih, a programme of sexual enrichment workshops for married couples in Malay. In August 2021 they conducted an online seminar entitled “Sex, Soul and Islam” organised by the Islamic Institute for Development and Research, UK [IIDR].

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"Sex, Soul, and Islam is a pleasant guide to sexual intimacy for Muslim men and women. "

2023-03-25 04:26:04

Written by marriage counsellors and sociologists, Osman Sidek and Enon Mansor from Singapore, this easy-to-read book provides practical tips and guidance on marital relationships in Islam. Drawing upon contemporary research and decades of experience of marital coaching, the husband and wife co-authors address common myths and rulings on sexual acts.

Divided into four chapters on; sex in Islam, conjugal rights, Islamic sexual etiquettes, and the sexual experience, the book helps readers understand the spirit of Islamic legal rulings.

According to the Islamic tradition and Sunnah of lovemaking, men should be affectionate and considerate when intimate. Similarly, women are encouraged to fulfil their husbands' intimate needs. Mutual understanding and sexual satisfaction should be the aim for a fulfilling marital relationship.

The book also addresses contemporary intimacy issues such as wife-beating, masturbation and female dissatisfaction. According to the authors, "many women are still clueless regarding sexual pleasure and their rights to it and even among those who know of their sexual rights, many do not bother to pursue them as they do not miss something they never possessed in the first place."

The book includes a sound clarification of some sexual hadiths which are often misunderstood by contemporary Muslims as 'misogynistic' or 'permitting marital rape.' The authors debunk these misconceptions as well as highlighting the problem of Muslim machismo.

"The real reason behind the sexual machismo we see in the Muslim community, past and present, is the obsessive focus by men on the Prophet's advice to women while ignoring the guidance for men," writes Sidek and Mansor.

The authors deserve much praise for their efforts in presenting a balanced approach to spiritual intimacy and physical lovemaking from an Islamic perspective. Sex, Soul, and Islam by @enonandosman is a recommended read for Muslims and anyone interested in Islamic sexuality.

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